Uchtdorf, November 1st, For the entire talk: Will I ever find my soul mate? There is an old story about a young woman on an archaeological excavation who discovers an ancient-looking lamp. When she rubs it, a genie appears, offering her one wish. She thinks for a moment and asks for world peace — that people would love each other and live in harmony forever. The genie contemplates her request and finally says: The division among the peoples of the world is too deep and has existed for too long.
Please ask for something else. The young lady thinks again and says: I think I fell in love with my wife, Harriet, from the first moment I saw her.
Nevertheless, had she decided to marry someone else, I believe I would have met and fallen in love with someone else. Another error you might easily make in dating is expecting to find perfection in the person you with.
Falling in love is a wonderful feeling, and I would never counsel you to marry someone you do not love. Nevertheless — and here is another thing that is sometimes hard to accept — that magic sparkle needs continuous polishing.
Frankly, it takes work. For any relationship to survive, both parties bring their own magic with them and use that to sustain their love. Although I have said that I do not believe in a one-and-only soul mate for anyone, I do know this: Once you have committed, the Lds general conference talks on dating for a soul mate is over. Our thoughts and actions turn from looking to creating.
But what about those who despair of ever finding an eternal companion? Go to activities, meet people, and do all you can. I know that dating can be rough. Rejection is one of the most painful things we can experience. Trust me, I know how this feels. I fell in love with Harriet long before she fell in love with me. I found ways to be in the same place she was. When I was administering the sacrament at church, I arranged to pass it to her family.
I was doing the best I could to impress her, but I think she found me a little immature. I despaired of ever convincing her that I could be anything more than a friend. I went away, joined the
Lds general conference talks on dating Force, and then traveled half a world away to attend pilot training in the United States. I moved quickly after that, and within a few months I married the woman I had loved for a long, long time.
Brethren, the secret to finding the girl of your dreams is to get to know many of them and then, when you fall in love and it feels right, ask her to marry you. If she says no, you continue to search and to pray until finally you will arrive with that young woman at the altar of the temple.
Now, sisters, be gentle. But please do it gently. And brethren, please start asking! There are too many of our young women who never go on dates. Sometimes they are wondering why no one asks them out.
Just ask, and be prepared to move on if the answer is no. One of the things you need to learn is how to have a conversation with a member of "Lds general conference talks on dating" opposite sex. A great way to "Lds general conference talks on dating" this is by being alone with someone — talking without a net, so to speak. When my wife and I moved from Germany to Salt Lake City, one of the things that most surprised us was the elaborate and sometimes stressful process young people had developed of asking for and accepting dates.
Find simple ways to be together. One of my favorite things to do when I was young and looking for a date was to walk a young lady home after a Church meeting. Remember, your goal should not be to have a video of your date get a million views on YouTube. The goal is to get to know one individual person and learn how to develop a meaningful relationship with the opposite sex.
Now, there are those among you fine young members of the Church who might never marry. Although they are worthy in every way, they may never find someone to whom they will be sealed in the temple of the Lord in this life. There is no way for those who have not experienced this despair to truly understand the loneliness and pain they might feel.
I know of many women who want more than anything else to be a wife and a mother, and they cannot understand why their prayers have never been answered. There are many single men who, for whatever reason, also find themselves alone. First, let me tell you that your prayers are heard. Your Father in Heaven knows the desires of your heart.
But this I can tell you: Sometimes it can be difficult to see anything beyond the path immediately before us. We are impatient and do not want to wait for a future fulfillment of our greatest desires. Nevertheless, the brief span of this life is nothing in comparison with eternity. And if only we can hope and exercise faith and joyfully endure to the end — and I say joyfully endure to the end — there, in that great heavenly future, we will have the fulfillment of the righteous desires of our hearts and so very much more that we can scarcely comprehend now.
In the meantime, do not wait for someone else to make your life complete. Stop second-guessing yourself and wondering if you are defective. Instead, Lds general conference talks on dating to reach your potential as a child of
Lds general conference talks on dating. Become engaged in a meaningful career, and seek fulfillment in service to others. Use your time, your talents, and your resources to improve yourself and bless those around you.
All of this is part of your preparation for having a family. Immerse yourself in your ward or branch and seek to magnify your callings, no matter what they may be.
The great purpose of this mortal existence is to learn to fully love our Heavenly Father and our neighbor as ourselves. If we do this with all our might, mind, and strength, our eternal destiny will be glorious and grand beyond our capacity to imagine.
Be faithful, and things will work out for you. That is His eternal promise to all who love and honor Him. Original address here and text here.
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